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So where to begin? I suppose it makes sense to tell you why I started this blog and why hopefully it might be of interest to you. It seems to me that human beings are pretty odd creatures. On the one hand we have a seemingly infinite capacity for variation and invention, and yet on the other hand we are frustratingly predictable…sometimes tragically so. We exist as an incredibly complex interplay of physiology and environment, spending our lives in perpetual flux as we try to change and adapt to meet the demands that these twin forces place upon us. In adulthood we imagine ourselves better equipped to meet the obligations of our hectic social existence, but therein lies the irony. The truth is that from the moment we are born, we are primed, just as a plant seeks out sunlight, to search out these social bonds. It is these healthy and loving ties that enable us to take root in the world and without such we can feel fragmented, as though we are falling apart and not fully whole or alive. We understand implicitly that a secure attachment will ensure our survival…an intrinsic recognition that this bond will equip us with the tools we need to eventually navigate the world independently. These early experiences become the bedrock of who we are. It is my belief, however, that events in infancy have a far more potent effect than is currently understood by mainstream mental health. Indeed, the extent of what happens in these years cannot be understated. Everything, from how the brain develops to future emotional health is affected in this brief window of time. It is here that the psychological apparatus that regulate emotions, enable us to develop healthy relationships (our capacity to seek and give care) and cooperate with others is created. A dysfunctional attachment by contrast is a perversion of this…a chaotic and unpredictable environment in which the seeds of aggression, anxiety and a negative self-view are sown. Early infant environmental failure can and does lead to adult psychopathology.

12 Responses to “About us

  1. James Donovan

    Love the article. Look forward to many more!

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    • Becs Eyre

      Thanks James. Lots more to come. Becs

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    • Sarah davis

      Its very hard to find informed material about parenting. I have found motherhood difficult, perhaps because I came to it later in life and perhaps I live too much in my head. Interesting to mull over..

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      • Rebecca Eyre

        Thanks Sarah. I’m so pleased you are finding the blog interesting … I think it also helpful for us to all share our own experiences and to know we are trying the best we can. Donald Winnicott often spoke about ‘the good enough mother’… Being aware of our experiences, actions and consequences of these, particularly on children, is a great start… Good luck x

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  2. Joy Immonen

    Totally agree and as much as it may be controversial in Western society especially, you are right that experiences in our early years can shape our lives. Not easy to throw in a few ‘comments’ as very emotive, but all the same your point about “attachment” is very important. Looking forward to reading more.

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    • Becs Eyre

      Thanks Joy! I agree our early lives are just so important in shaping us. Lots more blogs on there way. Becs

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  3. Mary

    Lovely to meet to this evening Becks. I wish u all the best for ur Blog and hope ur works of experience and insightfuness opens up more dialogue and understanding of attachment disorder and the affects it has on families and society. When we have finished bringing up our children, it’s society that has to deal with them. Let’s make sure we do a good job. X

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    • Becs Eyre

      Hi Mary, thanks for your comment and great to meet you too. Let’s definitely make sure we do a good job. I hope this blog will educate, inspire discussion and help in this endeavour. Becs

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  4. Liz Bilney

    Brilliant, insightful, gripping….immediately engages and leaves you hungry for more……. Great great work

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    • Becs Eyre

      Thanks Liz! It’s really important to me so great you’re enjoying it. Will keep the blogs coming!

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  5. Steve Eyre

    Hi Becks, interesting read! BTW, you are totally anonymous as far as I can see, and it might help people who don’t know you to engage if you present a name (even if it’s a nom de plume digitale…)

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